Question When do you cut ties with a regular?

[Deleted member 79939]

If someone likes you they will make time for you; in this case she doesn't for whatever reason. If she wanted a relationship she would pursue it, simple as that. If you want to know her reasons; ask her.

Regulars eventually go ape and cold on you .
It’s human nature .
They have to protect their e feelings .
So they don’t become depressed .

 

[Toomanymiles]

Honestly, you should never believe a word that comes out of a hoes mouth. They are always lying. They are trained that way.

 

[Flyingfox]

I have a regular MPA ( I see her almost every week recently), she says in every session she likes me and wants to be my girl friend , though she knows I have a family. Do I believe her? No, just enjoy the fantasy within an hour - both of us are happy camper

 

[Huber Matos]

Hi Everyone,

I’m new to the MP scene and was hoping some of you veterans could shed some light on my current situation. I’ve been seeing a particular MPA regularly – about seven times so far within a month – and in my recent visit, I noticed a change in her behaviour.

She usually greets me with a smile and a long hug, but this did not happen in my recent visit. When we got to the room, she said she could only do 30 minutes even though I booked an hour appointment with the owner. This was odd since we went about 5-8 minutes overtime, but I didn’t see any other customers show up. Additionally, she’s ok with me licking and sucking on her tits, but for some reason, she had her hands covering up her boobs and would not let me explore them. As well, she’s normally open to conversation, but she would not engage in much discussion / give one word answers or say “I don’t know” quite a bit – I know from previous visits that this is her way of not answering particular questions, but she was saying this more than usual.

So, of course, a lot of thoughts and scenarios went through my mind on my drive home. She was working on a day that she normally doesn’t, and when I noticed her cold behaviour early, I actually asked her about it and she said she didn’t want to be working that day. Hence, this is probably the most likely explanation. Or maybe she saw a customer earlier in the day that put her in a bad mood (maybe he was rough with her tits, and thus, she didn’t want me to play with them?... I’m kind of reaching here, lol).

But then I also thought about if there were any changes from my second last visit to my recent visit – we exchanged numbers and added each other on chat app. In that time frame, I just sent her some casual texts asking how her day’s going and if she’s working on an unscheduled day – she reads the messages but doesn’t’ respond. Obviously, we have somewhat a connection based on the number of times I’ve seen her, but she sends mixed signals (e.g. I asked her if she wanted to get dinner (as I was the last client for the day a few weeks ago) and she didn’t answer. In another visit, we were in the heat of the moment, staring at each other, and I said “I wish I could do this every night with you” and she said “take me home” (not as a joke… I think? Lol … or was it “invite me home”… you get the point). Anyways, I should cut the details here, who knows if she browses this forum!

So yeah, I’m not sure what to make of this, but it’s been on my mind enough that I’m making a post about it. I know some of you have been in this game for decades, so maybe you’ve experienced something similar with your regular(s) in the past/current… Any thoughts or advice on my situation? Am I just over-reacting and it was probably just a one-off as she was working a non-scheduled day? I suppose I’ll find out in my next visit, but this won’t happen for a few weeks due to personal stuff. Where do you draw the line in terms of personal connection and conversation with a regular?

If you have any personal stories with a regular and how it turned out, do share! Thanks for reading my essay

I used to have a regular like that, but in my case what happened is that the more I used to go the more I used to pay her and that keep her really happy.
But everything has to como to an end, one day I run out of money for this hobby and I did not go back for more than a year.
You won't believe that when I showed up after all that time, she didn't recognize me at all. I admit that was hard at the beginning but in a way expected.
Think about, the base of this relation is money, there is nothing more, so, you can get her happy by tipping more but this eventually will have to end.
My advice, go around and discover new gems, you might find some bad ones but if you look and look, something good will come up.
Cheers

 

[Flyingfox]

Well said. Everything has to come to an end. Just don't create a ugly scene.

 

[Barney_B]

This is a business transaction. Pure and simple.

Like in business when replacing a supplier with another, I tell my old supplier why they are being replaced.... price, service, quality, etc. Same applies.... and if she values you as a customer, may try to earn back your business. But that is for her...

Same applies here.... be respectful... just like in business.

 

[BananaBoy888]

Was chatting with a mpa at Pure. She gave an interesting stat estimate that roughly 60-70% of her clients are married dudes

Would not be surprised. It's a fun hobby and you don't come home smelling like a strip club.

I have to say that I've never seen an MP as frequently in a short period as the OP. Most I have done was see Emma at Pure 3 times in a 6 week period, and now I only see her periodically and that seems to work well.

 

[Barney_B]

Was chatting with a mpa at Pure. She gave an interesting stat estimate that roughly 60-70% of her clients are married dudes

The 60 to 70% married client rate is not surprising. Would have thought north of 70%.

Time away from family is challenging enough without having to waste hours in bars and strip clubs. I work near a spa and can view the parking lot from my office. Clients start dropping by at 10am. Easier for a married man to take an "extended lunch".

 

[sexpuppy]

I used to have a regular like that, but in my case what happened is that the more I used to go the more I used to pay her and that keep her really happy.
But everything has to como to an end, one day I run out of money for this hobby and I did not go back for more than a year.
You won't believe that when I showed up after all that time, she didn't recognize me at all. I admit that was hard at the beginning but in a way expected.
Think about, the base of this relation is money, there is nothing more, so, you can get her happy by tipping more but this eventually will have to end.
My advice, go around and discover new gems, you might find some bad ones but if you look and look, something good will come up.
Cheers

Maybe she was so busy /w new clients everyday and/or somehow u look different but still kind of incredible that she'd forget.

 

[Huber Matos]

Maybe she was so busy /w new clients everyday and/or somehow u look different but still kind of incredible that she'd forget.

Is ok, the good thing is that I found new gems, hehehehehe.

 

[c1000]

Hi Everyone,

I’m new to the MP scene and was hoping some of you veterans could shed some light on my current situation. I’ve been seeing a particular MPA regularly – about seven times so far within a month – and in my recent visit, I noticed a change in her behaviour.

She usually greets me with a smile and a long hug, but this did not happen in my recent visit. When we got to the room, she said she could only do 30 minutes even though I booked an hour appointment with the owner. This was odd since we went about 5-8 minutes overtime, but I didn’t see any other customers show up. Additionally, she’s ok with me licking and sucking on her tits, but for some reason, she had her hands covering up her boobs and would not let me explore them. As well, she’s normally open to conversation, but she would not engage in much discussion / give one word answers or say “I don’t know” quite a bit – I know from previous visits that this is her way of not answering particular questions, but she was saying this more than usual.

So, of course, a lot of thoughts and scenarios went through my mind on my drive home. She was working on a day that she normally doesn’t, and when I noticed her cold behaviour early, I actually asked her about it and she said she didn’t want to be working that day. Hence, this is probably the most likely explanation. Or maybe she saw a customer earlier in the day that put her in a bad mood (maybe he was rough with her tits, and thus, she didn’t want me to play with them?... I’m kind of reaching here, lol).

But then I also thought about if there were any changes from my second last visit to my recent visit – we exchanged numbers and added each other on chat app. In that time frame, I just sent her some casual texts asking how her day’s going and if she’s working on an unscheduled day – she reads the messages but doesn’t’ respond. Obviously, we have somewhat a connection based on the number of times I’ve seen her, but she sends mixed signals (e.g. I asked her if she wanted to get dinner (as I was the last client for the day a few weeks ago) and she didn’t answer. In another visit, we were in the heat of the moment, staring at each other, and I said “I wish I could do this every night with you” and she said “take me home” (not as a joke… I think? Lol … or was it “invite me home”… you get the point). Anyways, I should cut the details here, who knows if she browses this forum!

So yeah, I’m not sure what to make of this, but it’s been on my mind enough that I’m making a post about it. I know some of you have been in this game for decades, so maybe you’ve experienced something similar with your regular(s) in the past/current… Any thoughts or advice on my situation? Am I just over-reacting and it was probably just a one-off as she was working a non-scheduled day? I suppose I’ll find out in my next visit, but this won’t happen for a few weeks due to personal stuff. Where do you draw the line in terms of personal connection and conversation with a regular?

If you have any personal stories with a regular and how it turned out, do share! Thanks for reading my essay

Homie, It blows my mind you actually put this much thought into a sex worker.

Like litterally, after I bust my nut I'm thinking how fast I can get the fukk out of there.

I gotta ask first, Is this an asian chick?

 

[blackdog]

Hi Everyone,

I’m new to the MP scene and was hoping some of you veterans could shed some light on my current situation. I’ve been seeing a particular MPA regularly – about seven times so far within a month – and in my recent visit, I noticed a change in her behaviour.

She usually greets me with a smile and a long hug, but this did not happen in my recent visit. When we got to the room, she said she could only do 30 minutes even though I booked an hour appointment with the owner. This was odd since we went about 5-8 minutes overtime, but I didn’t see any other customers show up. Additionally, she’s ok with me licking and sucking on her tits, but for some reason, she had her hands covering up her boobs and would not let me explore them. As well, she’s normally open to conversation, but she would not engage in much discussion / give one word answers or say “I don’t know” quite a bit – I know from previous visits that this is her way of not answering particular questions, but she was saying this more than usual.

So, of course, a lot of thoughts and scenarios went through my mind on my drive home. She was working on a day that she normally doesn’t, and when I noticed her cold behaviour early, I actually asked her about it and she said she didn’t want to be working that day. Hence, this is probably the most likely explanation. Or maybe she saw a customer earlier in the day that put her in a bad mood (maybe he was rough with her tits, and thus, she didn’t want me to play with them?... I’m kind of reaching here, lol).

But then I also thought about if there were any changes from my second last visit to my recent visit – we exchanged numbers and added each other on chat app. In that time frame, I just sent her some casual texts asking how her day’s going and if she’s working on an unscheduled day – she reads the messages but doesn’t’ respond. Obviously, we have somewhat a connection based on the number of times I’ve seen her, but she sends mixed signals (e.g. I asked her if she wanted to get dinner (as I was the last client for the day a few weeks ago) and she didn’t answer. In another visit, we were in the heat of the moment, staring at each other, and I said “I wish I could do this every night with you” and she said “take me home” (not as a joke… I think? Lol … or was it “invite me home”… you get the point). Anyways, I should cut the details here, who knows if she browses this forum!

So yeah, I’m not sure what to make of this, but it’s been on my mind enough that I’m making a post about it. I know some of you have been in this game for decades, so maybe you’ve experienced something similar with your regular(s) in the past/current… Any thoughts or advice on my situation? Am I just over-reacting and it was probably just a one-off as she was working a non-scheduled day? I suppose I’ll find out in my next visit, but this won’t happen for a few weeks due to personal stuff. Where do you draw the line in terms of personal connection and conversation with a regular?

If you have any personal stories with a regular and how it turned out, do share! Thanks for reading my essay

Most girls have had a client that has gotten too emotionally attached to them and has wanted to start squeezing their way into their personal life. This can be quite a concern for them, especially if they have a BF or husband or just don't want spa life leaking into their personal life. I think her behaviour is her sending you notice to respect her boundaries. 7 times in one month is a flag for most girls that you might be becoming obsessive or clingy. Building an emotional relationship with a spa girl can feel really good, especially if you haven't had a legitimate relationship for a while, but don't fall into that trap. It will not lead to anything good. If you start feeling too attached to a girl take a break from her and start adding other girls into your visits.

 

[Deleted member 79939]

Sorry to hear of your confusion, it could be worse.

She said can only do 30 minutes. Who cares if she does not like you as much anymore (doubt that's the case) you would be dollar signs and surely she massaged multiple guys every day and doubt she liked them. Her tits became out of bounds. Sure sounds like period time to me, she tires easily and is sore.

If an MPA asks you to take her home, clarify what she meant. Did she mean, drive her home to her place? If she meant take her to your home, clarify that, then explain she's welcome (with caveats - place mess etc) or if she's not welcome, why not (wife, room mate etc.). Flirting with her is one thing, saying you want to be with her every night is another thing, and then she asked you the big question ('home") and it appears as if you just blew her off. This relationship is the epitome of "awkward" imo.

If you need to come on the board to fix it, or make things better, my advice is to stop and start over again somewhere else, only next time, don't read too much into things, be more careful flirting and put more effort into communication ..... so that next time your regular MPA shorten's your time, ask her, "Is everything OK, are you OK, can I get you a hot tea?" Your genuine concern for her is all that matters, she will likely not accept anything, but she won't forget that you've shown her, "It's not all about me."

Why are regular unpredictable ?

 

[Deleted member 79939]

Most girls have had a client that has gotten too emotionally attached to them and has wanted to start squeezing their way into their personal life. This can be quite a concern for them, especially if they have a BF or husband or just don't want spa life leaking into their personal life. I think her behaviour is her sending you notice to respect her boundaries. 7 times in one month is a flag for most girls that you might be becoming obsessive or clingy. Building an emotional relationship with a spa girl can feel really good, especially if you haven't had a legitimate relationship for a while, but don't fall into that trap. It will not lead to anything good. If you start feeling too attached to a girl take a break from her and start adding other girls into your visits.

Men in theory don’t want a regular after 30 fucks !!!