I have no problem answering some of these questions here.
My wife still works (jack shacks, only, now) and did FS while we were going out. I was married and then in the middle of a divorce during our "courting" period. We got married five months after my divorce was finalized.
Her work never bothered me and still doesn't. I'm one of the very few who can separate her work from our home life. We never discuss it.
Loin: this is the thing: I never considered a serious relationship with my girl. The ajima where we met suggested we start going out, telling my wife, "He's a really good guy. It would be good for you to get out once in a while." My wife, while on vacation, would just stay at her place in Flushing and relax, alone.
One day the ajima says to me, "Ask her out. I think she'll say, 'Yes.' "
I did and our first outside date was dinner at a Korean BBQ place near her apartment. She paid for the whole thing. We drank a lot of soju and when we got back to her place, she fell asleep. I put enough money in her handbag to cover dinner, put a blanket over her, kissed her in the forehead and went home.
I liked her a lot but never considered any kind of a future together. Once my divorce was finalized, the marriage talk started. It was not initiated by me. Did she need a Green Card? Yes. And I'll tell you what: I was happy to oblige considering that her presence in my life helped me through an extremely difficult time. I figured if that's all she wanted me for, I could deal with it. I filed that away, we got married, the GC was granted a couple of years later and we're still together having had a traditional wedding ceremony in Korea, last year.
It's real and I never doubted it.
You may want one of these girls but I've said it before, you don't pick them. They pick you.