cantinflas, in case you failed to realize, i agree with your general message: to be careful and to watch your own back. that many if not most of these relationship end with one or both parties distressed. (the same can be said about civilian relationships)
all i said was that there are a few exceptions to the rule, which you seem to agree with. and that i like to remember the good times along with the bad.
however, i need to respond to a few things since you called me out for an 'emotional, drippy post.'
never said anything about saving them or opening my bank accounts to them. simply about having a good relationship with them outside of their job. just like with any civilian.
this applies to both women and men in this hobby. sounds to me like some men in the hobby are just as jaded as the women they deal with. is there a correlation between the amount of exposure and the amount of negativity you develop?
the same exact thing can be said about the mongers, and how they deal with amp women outside the AMP.
its all about the people you get your advice/guidance from. if they get advice from a biased, jaded person, they will most likely adopt those characteristics themselves.
trusting the wrong people and receiving bad advice has ruined many decent people. its a sad reality. but it happens in every racial, social, economic class, not just with working girls.
i understand that for many, when they get dicked over, they forget about the good and let the bad stand out heavily. this negativity is very apparent and it often leads to biased views and over-generalizations. (which is what i was responding to)
i never meant to ignore or minimize yours/ others' warnings to other mongers. they are valid. and should be taken seriously.
i was just saying, don't forget about the good things that also happened along the way. even when parting ways after a while (for whatever reason), some people can do it without harboring negative feelings.
although i truly believe my mission in life is NOT fruitless, thanks for wishing me good luck. good luck to you as well.
imho, there was little to no 'emotional dripping' in my post... but to each there own...
also, if its relevant to the thread, every viewpoint should be posted. whether people enjoy reading them or not, and whether other people disagree with them or not.
not sure who said this but: you can understand some people all the time, and understand everyone sometimes. but you can not understand everyone all the time.
i have said what i had to say and i am going to end with agreeing to disagree on some of the ways we view this topic.