Chat Can you trust spa girls...

[OG_funguy]

I am on my way out. There is some business that I need to tend to and that will be done on Tuesday.
ETA: basically I had to confirm some plans with my two favs. Going to book a four hands massage with them on Tuesday to express my gratitude for their company.

Even if you stop hobbying doesn’t mean you can’t check in on here for shit and giggles

 

[OG_funguy]

Ahh sorry for being so abrupt at disappearing. I had some emotional entanglements and that fucked me up. I just decided on Friday to settle with the ex and give her almost everything she’s asking for. Gonna shut this past chapter in my life, start a new one. Looking forward to that. I’m not sure how to mix actual dating life with this hobby. I suspect they generally don’t mix, but I want something way more than rental by the hour company.

The girls that we meet in this hobby are generally pretty awesome. I don’t know if I will ever find a woman that even competed with the average gal that I meet doing this hobby. But I think it’s a worthwhile pursuit.

So in the next couple of weeks I need to sign off on the house, the condo, the car, the restaurant. Sift through our belongings and figure out what I will take. Also find a new home. But Feb 1 is the start of a new chapter boys. I am excited and I am scared. I’m old, short and fat. I can only really address one of those three but without emotional turmoil of a divorce, at least I am free to start addressing that now.

How do I start dating again as a 50 yr old? Any suggestions?

PS. I had to log back on to finish some business via DM. That’s done now. Or will be by Tuesday.

Pick up some social activities, join some clubs and groups…if worse comes to worse, find a very low mileage spa girl

 

[Lalallala]

Pick up some social activities, join some clubs and groups…if worse comes to worse, find a very low mileage spa girl

Haha what? You think I am home spanking to PH every night?!

ETA: dragon boat keeps me busy year round.. add in the dogs, cycling, gym, running (will do the TCS half again this year in October) and far far far too wide groups of friends, it’s a wonder I have time to visit spas.

If any of you are dragonboaters competitive at the national or international level, I am sure our paths have crossed paths at some point. This divorce cost has prevented me from applying for this year’s WDBRC in Germany but I will be at CCWC in Taiwan if you are going. Need to have something like an MP pin or paddle sticker to identify ourselves

ETA2: I don’t have to be out of the house until Feb 1 so gonna have a big ass pre-CNY/tet dinner party on the 28th that will certainly piss my ex off to no end.

 

[tr0mb0]

Haha what? You think I am home spanking to PH every night?!

ETA: dragon boat keeps me busy year round.. add in the dogs, cycling, gym, running (will do the TCS half again this year in October) and far far far too wide groups of friends, it’s a wonder I have time to visit spas.

If any of you are dragonboaters competitive at the national or international level, I am sure our paths have crossed paths at some point. This divorce cost has prevented me from applying for this year’s WDBRC in Germany but I will be at CCWC in Taiwan if you are going. Need to have something like an MP pin or paddle sticker to identify ourselves

ETA2: I don’t have to be out of the house until Feb 1 so gonna have a big ass pre-CNY/tet dinner party on the 28th that will certainly piss my ex off to no end.

Pissing off the Ex! That’s a blood sport!

 

[peaceofmind]

Good luck with the next phase and new chapter @Lalallala - and glad there's clarity and peace of mind after all that.

I've never been married but man, seeing yours and some other folks' stories on here I'm somehow less and less inclined to get married as the years pass. Having meaningful human relationships is the most important thing... but marriage? Seems like a path towards losing half my assets at some point .

 

[pineapplebun]

Good luck with the next phase and new chapter @Lalallala - and glad there's clarity and peace of mind after all that.

I've never been married but man, seeing yours and some other folks' stories on here I'm somehow less and less inclined to get married as the years pass. Having meaningful human relationships is the most important thing... but marriage? Seems like a path towards losing half my assets at some point .

Pfft don’t be silly. If it was just losing half I would have signed off 3.5 years ago. The sticking point has been spousal support

 

[peaceofmind]

Pfft don’t be silly. If it was just losing half I would have signed off 3.5 years ago. The sticking point has been spousal support

Okay now you're giving me nightmares

 

[Jumpin’ Jack Flash]

Or marry someone with more money and go for spousal support from her

 

[OG_funguy]

Or marry someone with more money and go for spousal support from her

Now we're talking...but the chances of finding someone rich AND hot AND young probably not too promising...maybe a spa owner?

 

[Jumpin’ Jack Flash]

Now we're talking...but the chances of finding someone rich AND hot AND young probably not too promising...maybe a spa owner?

I’m seeing one right now. Kinda hot. Not too young but family business is pretty hugely

 

[Lalallala]

Good luck with the next phase and new chapter @Lalallala - and glad there's clarity and peace of mind after all that.

I've never been married but man, seeing yours and some other folks' stories on here I'm somehow less and less inclined to get married as the years pass. Having meaningful human relationships is the most important thing... but marriage? Seems like a path towards losing half my assets at some point .

tbh i don't have an issue against marriage. I just chose wrong I am hoping that I have learned from the first so that the next would be a better choice.

 

[Lalallala]

Okay now you're giving me nightmares

basically the last 3 years we were together were her lowest earning years (read: she earned so little she paid no taxes), and those were also my highest earning years. So using that as the basis for spousal support screwed me over. Basically she wanted half my income for the next 15 years. Ended up giving her everything to avoid that perpetual reminder. Prior to those three years she had a decent income though.

 

[Jumpin’ Jack Flash]

basically the last 3 years we were together were her lowest earning years (read: she earned so little she paid no taxes), and those were also my highest earning years. So using that as the basis for spousal support screwed me over. Basically she wanted half my income for the next 15 years. Ended up giving her everything to avoid that perpetual reminder. Prior to those three years she had a decent income though.

Hmmm she could’ve been planning this for a few years then…

 

[Lalallala]

Hmmm she could’ve been planning this for a few years then…

no.. we started a restaurant. She took time off to learn the business. and then took no pay while it was starting up. Covid hit and then we went from spending 2-3 hours/day together (and we kept pretty busy the rest of the time).. to spending 18 hours/day together. We realized then that we perhaps aren't very compatible after all...

 

[OG_funguy]

Lesson learned - I’m gonna quit my job

 

[Jumpin’ Jack Flash]

Lesson learned - I’m gonna quit my job

The going to spas job ?

 

[Johnjoebowler]

Thanks for your as usual insightful commentary. Truly adding value to this thread. Not in anything you actually say, or its relation to the topic at hand, as is your usual modus operandi; but because I can take the opportunity to share some insight to help others here who may be more curious and less judgmental than yourself.

Academics, those who conduct research and teach at Universities, are primarily hired and retained to conduct research and publish their findings. Publish or perish is the general refrain amongst academics. The higher aim is to add to the sum of human understanding. The value in that research, even if it is subsequently proven wrong, is the incremental growth of our reality based knowledge that are the foundations of various academic disciplines. But there are often more practical outcomes as well.

My discipline requires lengthy fieldwork based research in order to achieve a doctorate; usually between one to two years of intensive site based work that includes non literary language acquisition. While carrying out my fieldwork in the South Pacific I was privileged to take part in the testing of the efficacy of various ways of treating mosquito nets to reduce the cases and mortality of endemic malaria. Millions died annually from malaria at that time, and I was happy for the opportunity to take part in the work.

My university was carrying out pioneering research in RNA vaccines, which in the end did not prove to be effective; but the adoption of simply providing and soaking of the nets was a resounding success. Free things are appealing to people in the fourth world, and my village had a near universal take up. Based on preliminary findings, the incidence of malaria for children, those most likely to die from malarial infection and the number of cases dropped by a more than five-fold factor (just checked my fieldnotes, data was based on previous years records and anecdotal evidence from the orderly at the local aid-post). A simple adjunct to my research saved approximately 7 lives while I was there, but I can't attest to the long term numbers in the couple of decades since I left. Research budgets being cut due to bureaucracies and political whims are the bane of the academy.

I will let you draw your own conclusions regarding value, or lack thereof, of my own personal academic work. But let me add this note I just read on facebook the other day: the young man who was christened with my surname, just graduated from his nation's top University with a degree in Medical research, and aims for a career in health services. I take no credit, but some pride in his accomplishments.

In conclusion, my ego is based on accomplishment, and I am valued for, among other things, saving actual lives of my people.

My question to you BasedD: what explains your ego, and what are the bases for your value?

Those who can do, those who cannot teach, and those who can do neither are critics. (Just to correct your misquotation...)

Someone must have left the door open. That mongrel from up the road got in, had a shit, and is over in the corner licking it's ass

 

[SpongeBobs-knob]

no.. we started a restaurant. She took time off to learn the business. and then took no pay while it was starting up. Covid hit and then we went from spending 2-3 hours/day together (and we kept pretty busy the rest of the time).. to spending 18 hours/day together. We realized then that we perhaps aren't very compatible after all...

Or, the stress and financial issues possibly, that, in itself, ends a lot of marriages

 

[Lalallala]

Or, the stress and financial issues possibly, that, in itself, ends a lot of marriages

Ahh there was stress but fortunately (or unfortunately now) my income was more than able to cover covid related shortfalls. Hah. Oh well.

 

[SpongeBobs-knob]

Ahh there was stress but fortunately (or unfortunately now) my income was more than able to cover covid related shortfalls. Hah. Oh well.

Right, thought maybe it was related to the restaurant, good buddy mine almost lost his shirt through that mess. Restaurants are funky to begin with, without tossing covid in the mix