FWIW I feel like lately I hear a lot of guys going through this, more so than usual, but that's usually with a girl who's gone indie from a spa or agency. Plan Bs are nice if you don't do it often - thus developing a rep as a flake yourself. And at some point, no amount of money is really going to make up for the time lost. And neither of these things matter if you don't even get the courtesy of a text or call letting you know your appointment was cancelled.