wife/how bad is this/What are odds of being busted

[MeAgain]

Hey
Ive sought you all out as I think I relate.....
Paying for womanly pleasure has never bothered me.....
I am married and i think i need some massage parlour action...
Can anyone tell me if there hesitant like I am,?
Can anyone tell me if there doing it behind your wifes back?

 

[~*T!NK*~]

Dude, you're the only one that can assess the risk vs supposed reward in your own case. There are alot of reasons married guys see sp's, but the guys that do it accept the fact (and have come to terms with) that they are cheating on their wives.

If you're having problems with the morally ambiguous nature of it, then don't do it. Or do it. Either way, you'll have the answer to your question.

The only way you could do it without going behind your wife's back would be to tell her of your intentions. Who knows, may'be she'd be into that kind of kink and want to join you.

 

[Sondra]

Well Im not a dude who uses these services. I am, however, a chick that provides the services, so I thought I would give some input. When new fella's come into the studio, I like to tell them as much as I can. Mostly to dispell any myth's, but also to inform the person and help them feel comfortable. So here's my 2 bit's.

I would say 80% or so of the client's who come in are married. Most are just seeking intimacy. It is a very small population that are, what you might consider, into kink. Many first timer's are nervous. I am in no way advocating drinking and driving, but one bevy to calm the nerves might b a good idea. In studio's, there is a greeting system. So the ladies will stream by and you get your choice. This is where you need to be intuituive. A girl that takes her time to say hello and is friendly and giving of information, would likely provide a simular service. You don't have long to chat with each one, so use it wisely. As in any buisness there are good provider's and not so good provider's. You need to be able to decipher alot in a short amount of time, so use your instinct. I'd hate for you to try this out and be rushed and not treated the way you should be. With patience, time,gentleness. Id suggest posting here as well to ask for a good provider; but it seem's your thread here got lost in the shuffle. Hopefully if you post again, more people will respond. The studio's are a great place. Discretion is of the upmost importance for you and the staff. I wish you well, should you give it a try. Oh and if physical features are super important, you can check out the gals on each website for that specific studio. Take it easy

 

[TF+MG=<3]

Nice to see a ladies view. Thank you

G.A.

 

[Matt Gavaghen]

"its only cheating if you get caught"

 

[bigrobdeezey]

I've been pooning for a while.
These ladies make a living at return customers so they make and effort not to leave anything behind besides a goofy smile and a spent cock.

Does your wife know you ate at McDonalds for lunch?
She won't know you ate a professional pussy during your lunch.

The challenge is the $$. If you're spending$400 on poon, there is the possibility she'll notice it missing.

Be smart with your money & time and she'll never know.

 

[SemandXX]

This post is really the truth. I think many of the married men can relate to this.
Well said Sidara.
I know if my wife would like sex more than once a month, I'd never poon-Ever.
I'd be fine with once or twice a week. She's a beauty going to waste really. It a total shame.

 

[Soggy Waffles]

I hadnt actually answered the question, so I thought Id participate abit more lol. I see other's commented on the logistic's of keepin it on the lowdown . Thanks be to them. What I was attempting to do in my response was reassure. There are many stigma's attached to being sexually active. We are a prude yet somewhat sexually liberal society; If thats possible. Its not just sex. It is about exploring sexuality and intimacy. We all have that capacity to experience it. and it is part of our nature. I did not work the day's of the track, however, studio's are, in my mind, the best way to go about it.
So I guess my input, once again, is emotional support. Go Team!!! lol.
I do agree with the one fella "boo." Pussy or a big mac...........there both satisfying just cover your tracks well. Good Luck....and you better follow follow through dammit O.K kidding on the dammit part. Happy trail's

 

[big red bon bon]

There are many stigma's attached to being sexually active. We are a prude yet somewhat sexually liberal society; If thats possible. Its not just sex. It is about exploring sexuality and intimacy. We all have that capacity to experience it. and it is part of our nature. I did not work the day's of the track, however, studio's are, in my mind, the best way to go about it.
So I guess my input, once again, is emotional support. Go Team!!! lol....."


Well said Sidara especially "it's not just sex it is about exploring sexuality and intimacy....." I couldn't have said it better. As men we are tied in and hard wired for sex with multiple partners or else why would I (men) constantly be checking the ladies out and yes we are now to varying degrees domesticated but we still have a base sexual biological and a mentality (cave man) that drives us. All the more power to those who are happy in monogomy however no aploogies from me for being a serial pooner....The thing is I have this pokie thing that reminds me everyday of just how hard wired I am and as I grown older I feel abit of entitlement to experiment with my sexuality and really use it or lose it....If your married try not to get caught if you are plead insanity "I was crazy about that girl"

Max

 

[MARIE LOVES SCOTT]

think about how your wife would feel

 

[Tinky Winky]

I'm pretty sure we are all single here!!

 

[SiderealDrift]

Well put.That about sums it up.

 

[James M]

I am a wife that left my husband because he was visiting the Swedish Touch. He lost me (a wife that adored him, millions of dollars, and our fabulous life) because of it. I know you all will think its because I wouldn't put out, but I wanted him all the time and I'm very hot (at least that's what i'm told by men ages 20 and up every day) If you think I found out because he wasn't cautious, you're wrong. What alot of guys just don't understand is that we girls have a 6th sense, somehow we just "know" you guys are cheating. We don't mean to and we don't want to know, we just know. I knew and after he kept doing it, denying me sex, and beating me whenever I asked him about it, I finally left. Later on, I dated a guy that had witnessed my ex husband's partying firsthand (hookers, strippers etc) while we were married, and confirmed what I had "known". (apparantly my ex has quite the reputation downtown). So that said, think about what you could lose and if it's worth it. This all could have been fixed by my husband giving me sex and explaining to me what he needed (bigger breasts, anal, duo, etc) I would have done ANYTHING he wanted, he never gave me the chance.

 

[Peyton :]]

Opinion from SP's partner

I used to be in a relationship with an SP that still posts on here. I met her by chance and ended up dating and living together. After we dated more seriously she promised to leave the business which she did for a little while. We moved in together and life was good for a while but she returned to SPing as she lost her job. Once she returned to SPing I stopped sleeping with her and could no longer be in a relationship. She told me that her customers meant nothing to her it was just sex and that she loved me and only me. She failed to realize that it meant something to me. She didn't take into consideration my feelings and that it might hurt me to have her providing GFE to other men nor having sex with them either. Kissing is the most personal thing about foreplay that I truly enjoy the most. To have her do this with other men, killed me. I guess that is why our sex life was not with feeling from her side. To this day I know she never ever did see my point of view on this but oh well. I am a sensitive and caring man that could live with her past but not her present. So remember this pooners it is a business and great acting, take it for what it is.

 

[Ubaida]

Very interesting story totalhottie, sometimes it's the thrill, the excitement, the exotic, the unknown, the illicitness that is addictive. Some men find it extremely difficult or cannot get close to someone else, to really Love, love so much you need nothing else. Anyway I hope he found whatever it is he was looking for, you're probably better off without him and hope you are finding what you need too.

By the way, what's this about millions of dollars?

 

[CharlyHeartsArsenal]

To the original poster, if you haven't partaken yet, this would be my advice. Sit down with your wife, and tell her you are not getting what you need. Once a month is not enough. Ask her what she needs to feel more sexy/sexual. What could you be doing to make her more interested? Even offer to go to therapy if that is what's needed. Give her a chance to work on it and improve the situation. But if things don't change, then it would be time to either leave her or start up in this hobby.

 

[Nirvana Veggie balls]

Depending on what kind of "massage parlour action" you're talking about, the degree of hesitation/guilt changes. A HJ should weigh less on your conscience than FS would. IMO, FS is "more" cheating than HJ is.

Am I doing it behind my wife's back? Damned straight. She's got cultural/age/body/peer/insanity issues that prevent us from communicating openly about this. Since her sexual needs aren't a priority for her and MY sexual needs aren't a priority for her either, I've got little reluctance to finding what I need elsewhere.

 

[sokokl]

I've never been married, but after reading these posts it strikes me as odd, that if so many married guys describe thier wives as cold and aloof, why not just get out of the relationship? Then your free to do whatever you want, whenever you want, no guilt or remorse.

Fact is that people change, who you are now is definitely not the person you will be 10 years from now and the same is true for your SO.

 

[Gareth]

Thanks JROD, to clarify, we were only married for 4 years, but he was poor when I married him. We made alot of money while we were married and when we divorced we obviously split it 50/50. That amounted to millions of dollars for him. Alot of you talk about the "cost" of the SP's but don't factor in the cost of divorce. I'm not judging, I'm here to learn.

 

[robertoalinexs]

I agree and I also agree that if your wife refuses you sex you have a "right" to go elsewhere