I disagree Gary, it is healthy anytime to get it out of you. What might be unhealthy is what you are putting it into. Being new at it, can understand the shyness and nervousness that Marvee had and that no doubt caused his condition. Well Marvee, it was the same for me. Now, went home and thought about it, decided the gal who made a similar comment as yours was kind and understanding and went back to her again, kidding about the first time, and just asked her to make it happen properly this time. Was much more relaxed realizing she was competent and interested and challenged. Turned out perfect! Just put you self in the hands of a professional.
Once that was over, there was an experience that showed just how lucky it was to have hit such a wonderful SP on the first shot. Went into one other boudoir, and for some reason a bit nervous again, which caused some issues again. It was only to have the SP state that it was my job to get it up and hers to get it down! And with that attitude, her effort wasn't really all that dedicated. Kind of crappy attitude, not going back there.