I want to introduce my boyfriend to my parents but they are very strict. Should I...

[Chocolate Chip]

...introduce him as a friend? I'm 16 and he is 18. I haven't told my parents about him yet because they are really strict and I'm afraid they won't let me have a boyfriend, especially since I met him on the internet. But now he is coming to visit me and there's no way for me to meet him without my parents knowing. So should I just say he is a friend instead? How can I get my parents to like him?

 

[weasa]

This is a tough one. If this had been a lad youd known for a while from school or college i probably would have said yes your near enough an adult, be honest with your parents, tell them youve been friendly with a lad for a while, that you really like him and hope it becomes more than friendship in future and that you would like them to meet him and also that you respect that while your under their roof you will do your upmost to compromise in any situation. You know the usual, if your parents see that you are being honest and respectful, even the strictest generally will see that your growing up and will in turn respect what your doing in your life (presuming you live with your parents).BUT you say you met him on the net, weather you have met him face to face or not be very very careful. If hes from a different area, you may not know his friends, friends of friends, his family, his background and therfore have no reference as to what he is like. If you havent met him how do you know its an 18 year old lad. Dont want to scare you but in my opinion you must inform your parents that you have met someone on the net and wish to meet with him and that you would like one of them to accompany you, if he turns out to be genuine, great but at least you kept yourself safe. Your parents should think more of you for being cautious and hopefully help you. If they kick off, stay calm dont argue back and explain that you d rather be safe meeting this guy and also wish to include them in what your doing in life than doing it behind their backs and potentially getting hurt. TELL YOUR PARENTS the stricter they seem to be generally means they care for you a lot more than most.

 

[sugarcoated]

Ohhh girl, I've been there. You want to talk about parents being strict? meet mine. Anyways, it's always going to be hard for parents to accept that their little girl is growing up and getting into relationships. If you met this guy over the internet and he's coming to visit you, I say this relationship of yours is pretty serious. I mean, come on, no guy will make such a big effort to show his face to a girl he met on the internet if he was not serious himself.

I know that I'm against lying (but what can I say, as a human, we still do)... I think it's best to tell them that he's just a friend. If your parents are strict, chances are.. they need a lot of time to absorb that you have a boyfriend. So in this case, take it slow. Let them know that he's a friend you've had for a long time. Once they start becoming comfortable with him, then you can let them know that you're dating this boy (not soon though, maybe a couple of months). As I said, you have to give your parents some time.. and when I say "time" i really mean it. I don't know how far you can go by talking to your parents and really telling them the truth. If you do, it can lead to two things. 1.) Theyll come to accept that you have a boyfriend OR 2.) They will totally make sure that you end it. Of course, we hope for the first one, but really.. you'll never know.

Whatever you feel is right, I say go for it. Don't ever put anyones judgements over yours. You know your parents the most... you'll figure things out soon enough.

 

[Anastasia Marie]

first of all, do you know this guy, or does anyone you know know him? becasue meeting someone online is not very safe at all. If you dont know him at all having your parents there might be a good idea.
And i wouldnt lie to your parents, you may just make a big mess of things, you could talk to them and tell them there is a guy you are interested in and you would like them to meet him. Tell them everything and get it all out in the open, they may respect the fact your being totally honest.

 

[Alesha <3]

Heyy.. I introoudeced my boyfriend to my parents yesterday and they are very strict to. My mum and dad said i shouldnt have a boyfriend but i said well i love him. and my parents met him and it was all good.. So i think you should introudce him to your parents but if they are very strict and you are worried i suggest introudce him as a friend so they at least get to meet him then maybe a week later tell them that he is your boyfriend or something like that. I hope i helped

 

[Debbie]

tell them he is a friend, you haven't started dating yet
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[<3 07182009 <3]

You should talk to you parents before he gets there. Don't lie to them because they will find out eventually and then they'll be disappointed in you for lying and wont trust you beyond that point. You can't "get them to like him" but if you're honest and up front with them, maybe they'll be more open to meeting him and getting to know him. They will most likely be very concerned about the fact that you met him online though so be prepared for that.