how to introduce my 16 month old to newborn?

[LC86]

I have a 16 month old daughter and I am due with my second daughter in three weeks.
My 16 month old is VERY clingy and VERY needy. she freaks out if she sees me hold another baby. she even freaks out when I go to the doctor and they measure my belly and check me. she doesnt like other people touching me. I do not acknowledge her tantrums but she is still so young she doesnt understand. I am very worried about trying to breast feed my new infant when she is born because I dont want my 16 month old to freak out every time I try. I just need some suggestions and on how to introduce them in the hospital and when we come home.
please real answers only.... dont waste my time reading your immature answers

 

[R.Ellie]

hold your daughter's hand and introduce her to your newborn.
emphasize that you love both of them equally.

honestly,when i was little, i was also very clingy towards my mother, and when my sister was born(a year younger than me), i felt left out from my mother's affection.i cried often for attention. you have to treat them both equally.

 

[Dixieland Delight]

I have a 15 month old, and I am due next Thursday with my second. I have been pretty worried about the same thing! Advice I have gotten is to expect temper tantrums. At their age, attention is attention. What is good attention to them is anything that puts your focus on them and gets you to stop paying attention to the baby. Don't scold her if she misbehaves, completely ignore it. On the flip side, when she is playing nicely and behaving, pay attention to her and tell her what a good girl she is. Tell her how much she loves the baby and how much the baby loves her. Babies are suggestible and when you tell her that, they accept it as truth. Buy her a doll, so she can take care of her baby while you take care of yours. Try to involve her in the care of the baby, like throwing away diapers. Also, mine has recently gotten the concept of giving kisses, we say give mommy kisses or give daddy kisses, so we plan to add the baby into that. I also talk to her a lot about the baby in my belly. She likes to touch and pat my belly and I will tell her "mommy has baby Riley in her belly" and she will say "a baby" over and over. Hopefully things go smoothly! If they are a little rocky, don't stress. It will get better. She will barely remember it!

 

[Doctahleming]

If he starts freaking out, keep her away from knifes or anything she can make a weapon, when she starts screaming her first thought is to kill the enemy.