Juniper Sage
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I'm in college and I met this wonderful guy that seems too good to be true. He loves me and seemingly does anything I ask (I even tested it out to making him eat leaves for me...yeah I felt guilty so I put some in my mouth & he immediately kissed me & took the leaves out & ate those too...) I've broken up with him 4 times and every time he took me back and loved me more than before. Every time we have a fight (even though I'm one that usually starts it), he'll always be the first to apologize. He lets tries his best to make me happy and never asked me to change in any way. He still kisses me even with morning breath or I haven't taken a shower in 2 days from frantically studying. I really do feel like I found the right one and I plan on keeping him. Okay so you have the general idea that he's the perfect guy for me (or at least I think so). Here's my problem
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He's Taiwanese and I absolutely have no problem with that. We started out as friends and I started to like him for who he is. He tells me about his culture and the stuff he's learned from all the time. He makes me the food his grandma makes him. When I'm sick he gets both english and asian medicine. I love him and I have embraced his culture by letting him play his music all the time, etc.
I am Native American. I grew up on the reservation with my cultural background. With my particular tribe, literally, his and my cultural clash in every way possible. Even the food is vastly different. He always asks me about my culture and wants to learn about it. He's always wanting me to make him my food and listen to my music. He loves it when I talk in my language too. I introduced him to my friends and they tell him about their tribes too. He's excited about learning there's more than just Native American (lots of tribes) and knowing how different they are to mine.
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PROBLEM: We're terrified of introducing each other to our parents....We explained how our parents are like and it's obvious neither side is going to be too happy about dating outside our race. His parents want him to be with the fair skinned (I'm obviously much darker), high class, smart TAIWANESE (not just any asian, she has to be Taiwanese). My parents wants me to be another full Native American (one from my tribe) to "pass on the bloodline". They don't want "outsiders" to pollute what "blood" we have left (since apparently little of us & my parents "worked" hard to keep it that way). They want me to be with a hardworking, educated, traditional guy that's going to already know how to treat them. My boyfriend and I love each other so much but we also love our parents. Neither of us know how to approach the situation and have to literally hide one another it's so sad to me. I figured any advise or opinion on this would help in any way. Please, just little steps on where to start would helpful!!!!!!!!!
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He's Taiwanese and I absolutely have no problem with that. We started out as friends and I started to like him for who he is. He tells me about his culture and the stuff he's learned from all the time. He makes me the food his grandma makes him. When I'm sick he gets both english and asian medicine. I love him and I have embraced his culture by letting him play his music all the time, etc.
I am Native American. I grew up on the reservation with my cultural background. With my particular tribe, literally, his and my cultural clash in every way possible. Even the food is vastly different. He always asks me about my culture and wants to learn about it. He's always wanting me to make him my food and listen to my music. He loves it when I talk in my language too. I introduced him to my friends and they tell him about their tribes too. He's excited about learning there's more than just Native American (lots of tribes) and knowing how different they are to mine.
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PROBLEM: We're terrified of introducing each other to our parents....We explained how our parents are like and it's obvious neither side is going to be too happy about dating outside our race. His parents want him to be with the fair skinned (I'm obviously much darker), high class, smart TAIWANESE (not just any asian, she has to be Taiwanese). My parents wants me to be another full Native American (one from my tribe) to "pass on the bloodline". They don't want "outsiders" to pollute what "blood" we have left (since apparently little of us & my parents "worked" hard to keep it that way). They want me to be with a hardworking, educated, traditional guy that's going to already know how to treat them. My boyfriend and I love each other so much but we also love our parents. Neither of us know how to approach the situation and have to literally hide one another it's so sad to me. I figured any advise or opinion on this would help in any way. Please, just little steps on where to start would helpful!!!!!!!!!